What is wrong with me?

[christologymum]

I just don't feel attracted to people? Split with my husband coming up to a year ago, been together 22 years and weren't intimate for the last year, various reasons just lost that part of our relationship it came to an amicable end.

Recently dipped my toes into OLD and been on 3/4 dates with different people, all lovely and had a great time got on great etc but I've not wanted to continue with it as I just haven't felt any attraction to them. Initially thought they were attractive on photos and no different when we met up, but it's almost like something is wrong with me I just don't find anyone physically attractive? I can't imagine being intimate with anyone.

I don't even have anyone I know in real life that I find attractive. When I see ex DH I still in a way find him attractive but not enough to go back there and also feel like it's just something familiar.

I'm in no rush to get into another relationship but it would be nice to have that special someone and feels like something is missing.

Maybe you’ve just not met your ‘person’?
I’ve often found that someone can be attractive but I’m not actually attracted to them. Perhaps you just need to meet several more people to find that person who really does it for you.

If you’ve currently got a ‘type’ you tend to meet up with, maybe try meeting with people who don’t necessarily fit your type.

Give yourself some time, OP. When I came out my marriage I was exactly the same. It’s just your body’s way of giving yourself time to process the change.