Am I overthinking selfie requests?

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I’ve just started talking to someone from a dating site for a couple of days- although we’ve moved offsite to chat. He sends a lot of photos & keeps asking me for selfies. Not nudes - just general pictures. Tonight he asked after sending 3 of his, and I said not tonight. He then kept making jokes about wanting to be cheered up, and then asked outright again twice.

I didn’t send one. I thought about doing it to make it easier, but it felt like he was testing by pushing at a boundary I’d put down? I’m not sure if I’m overreacting/overthinking things and maybe this is quite normal?
I came out of a long term relationship last year and we’d maybe send a pic if we were somewhere interesting, but that was it.
Thanks!

He then kept making jokes about wanting to be cheered up

Nice job of emotionally manipulating you to do something you have a right not to be comfortable with......because of course it's your duty to cheer him up with photos of yourself that you'll have no control over once their sent....isn't it??!!

How long is it going to take before he gets you used to providing him with selfies before he moves on to asking you to raise your top and the rest.....I wonder?

Urgh...bin.

@CamsPaisleyCuffs That's a good point.....but surely that can be solved by doing a quick video chat before they agree to going on a date together?

I used to get this a lot when OLD, men requesting constant pics, it was really draining. I hate sending pics for no reason I dont see the point of it and once they've established you are who you are, if you're not happy to they should leave it.

I had one man who wanted me to send pics of my body in several poses and close ups so he could decipher just "how big you really are " I had sent him several full body shots and told him I'm a big woman but I'm not going that far! He was no Adonis himself either.

The entitlement of some men is just unbelievable.

Thanks so much all. I'm glad I'm not the only one who'd find this too much. I'm not sure why I questioned myself, apart from the fact he seemed so reasonable about it / seemed like it was normal.

Whether he is a nice, but overly enthusiastic/needy guy, or a complete creep - I'm just not interested in finding out. I've sent a message saying it's not for me, take care etc.

"I already said no, not tonight. Why are you trying to harass me into doing something I already said no to? That's really unattractive and disrespectful."