Is he in to me or just being polite?

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He messages every day. I reply. He sometimes leaves me on read but will message again 10 mins or so later.

I do like him but I'm wondering if he's just being polite? Do people text anyway or only if they like someone?

I wouldn't message someone everyday if I didn't like them.

Also 10 mins isn't long to wait for a reply.

It’s hard to say without knowing the background. How did you meet and how long ago etc

He likes you.
Whether that’s as a very good friend or romantic it’s hard to tell.
Not many people message every day.

Can you give more details - how did you meet, how long have you known each other, have you kissed, what are the messages like?

How old are you? It's a pertinent question. If you're 20 or under, I understand that 'leaving someone on read' is like a real cardinal sin.

Can I give you one bit of advice? Move away from a text base for this as soon as possible. Make calls and take calls.

I was admiring his car and he liked mine

He's calls too and so do But he works evening to early morning and I work day time so it's not always the easiest

Met about 6 weeks ago but live about 3 hours from eachother so it's not like we are just around the corner

Just general chatting about what we are up to, how our days are going, sometimes a dirty depending on what we are doing/where we are

No one consistently bothers to message someone back they don’t like op 🥳👍

Unless there’s a weird behaviour backstory?

My partner of 5 months often leaves me on read for a couple of hours because he’s in a meeting or just really busy with work or his kids, and I do the same when I’m busy. It’s fine. Unless you’re messaging constantly all day, every day, at some point someone is going to have to leave a gap in messaging at some point!

I'm not sure about the texting.
Love bombing possibly.
I hope not.

So there hasn’t been a date? If not and he is not suggesting it I’d say it’s more an ego boost for him.
What do you want?? Is it a non starter for you to have a relationship with someone who lives 3 hours away?? Do you want someone who makes it really clear what they want ? If the answer to either of these is yes, I’d stop the texting abs look for someone who does meet your criteria. Your time is valuable. Don’t let him waste it.

My ex loved to text and would be upset if I didn't reply within minutes. As I'm often in lengthy meetings I would message her before the meeting started saying I wasn't available for whatever length of time the meet was scheduled for.
This worked perfectly.
Funnily she would text me all the time throughout our 3 year relationship however if I texted her she would accuse me of checking up on her and not trusting her!
Lovely woman, a bit strange at times though, bless her💔

He did suggest a date - it was all on but I ended up having to work, so we've arrange another date that hopefully neither of us will have to work

I don't mind the not texting back straight away - we both work and have lives. I probably over think the left on read and then a reply 20 odd mins later (that sounds a bit bunny boiler-ish), I just think wait to read til you can reply but maybe that's just me?🤷🏻‍♀️

I have stopped checking when messages were read as I was overthinking it - -just leave it (or switch off the parameter that shows you when messages are read)

I read a message so I can reply if a quick response is needed. If it is starting a conversation then I might have to prioritise something else. Eg "are we still on for tonight?" Would merit a quick, yes looking forward to it.

"How has your day been?" Would require a bit more time and thought. So would depend on what else I was doing.

Message him then put your phone down, do something else and check it later don't sit waiting to see when he reads and worry about length of time for reply.

#sally872 to speak absolute sense!