Date nights

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How often do you and you husband / partner go out on a date?

Pre covid - weekly date nights!

Now, weekly coffee and cake dates. Date nights maybe every fortnight?

Couple of times a year ... married 30+ years, honestly prefer a night in on my own when he goes out .

A few times per year. But it's got to a stage where if we d want to go out, our DDs want to come with us. We generally let them to that :) Which defeats the point I guess

Most weeks we do something together for a date night thing

A few times a year. Contingent on a babysitter for DD. But we always go somewhere fancy that's a real treat.

Usually we also go away for a night twice a year, to a nice hotel.

But we have in-home celebrations more regularly.

But we go for lunch together every during the school day quite regularly, and often go for a walk and coffee in the morning before work.

Maybe once a month

Maybe a couple of times a month. However, we don’t have kids so often will do something at home together if we don’t go out. We’re buying a house this year so I’m envisaging a lot of evenings cooking at home, making cocktails and playing games.

Twice a year, anniversary and Valentines Day.

Probably every month or so. We tend to prefer a candlelit dinner at home or just a film and a takeaway. However we do ‘day dates’ - like a walk or a hike or lunch - more often.

We aim for once a month but don’t always manage it. I keep a list in Notes on my phone of new restaurants/places to visits and he will text me suggestions when he sees them. This has really helped us with keeping up the date nights and personally I think they are really important.

For reference, we are 33 & 37 and been together 16 years, one child (11 yr old).

Why do ask OP?

Thanks everyone, interesting to read. I'm most trying to figure out what's the norm really. The last time I had a date night with my husband was 9 years ago before we had DS. Apparently he's a romantic according to him.

3-4 times a year. I hope it'll be a bit more in the future though - once every couple of months or something. Our next date is actually next week and I'm so excited.

9 years ago?! Wow. Do you do other things together? Like any joint hobbies for example so still spending time together but not conventional date nights.

@Ragwort

Couple of times a year ... married 30+ years, honestly prefer a night in on my own when he goes out .

As mine is retired and therefore around 24/7 much of the time I’m with you there! 😁 I also cringe at the expression “date night” although it’s an accepted phrase and nothing to do with OP’s use of it.

I do go out with my husband a few times a year on our own but I’m not younger with kids

Weekly, if not then definitely two weekly

Once since having children in 2017. But that's by choice not to leave our children so it's all good. We all go out together by choice.

We go on trips out all of us together but only when I arrange. Same with holidays. If I don't suggest doing something we would literally go nowhere.

All the time.
We do something together every week, in fact, most nights are a date night.
We have booked trips away for Windsor at the end of Jan, and then Harrogate, then maybe fly off to her home country in Feb too.

So away 2-3 times a month and at home every week.

The lack of effort would bother me. How do you feel about it?

Usually at least once a week maybe twice

At least once a month, more depending on shifts.

About once every 6 months.

The term makes me cringe tbh
If we went out without the kids, we went out 🤷‍♀️
But that's us, I'm not in the least bit romantic, neither is he... we just.. go out