My birthday

[Jolene93]

I’ve set up two WhatsApp groups, both for my birthday, one with work colleagues from my previous job who I’d still consider friends, and another for my best girl mates.

Both to do separate things, however I’ve only had a couple of responses in both groups? I have asked a few times now in the colleagues one to let me know if they’re going and I’m getting ignored yet they’re randomly posting other things in the chat now but not replying to me, but then will reply to each other IN my birthday chat I made specifically?

I feel like no one cares?

Bump

Is it a special birthday? And is this something that the others in the groups do for their own birthdays? I say this very kindly but birthdays just aren't a big deal for some people. Mine was last week and I did nothing- my choice I realise but most of my friends are similar. Try not to take it personally and happy birthday

I remember your previous posts. I seem to remember the advice given was for you to either come off WhatsApp or back away from this group of "friends".

Also in this Covid situation, people may feel uncomfortable committing to meet-ups at all, or prioritising meet-ups to see their nearest and dearest.

@JorisBonson those friends you mention have been out of my life for some time. I’m talking about other friends

@NewYearEveryYear we’re all meeting up tonight for another of our colleagues birthday so I think that rules that out :( @Ethelfromnumber73 hope that answers your questions too x

Nobody will be as bothered by your birthday as you. What and when are the activities-maybe people aren’t keen to do them? Are skint after Xmas? I’d presume by no replies that I’d not ‘read the room’ well with my plans.

What's the title of your WhatsApp groups? Is it 'Jolene birthday celebration'? If so it's odd they use it for anything other than intended. As you are the administrator I'd put out either 'hi everyone I need final numbers by 6pm tonight so please let me know if you are coming or else I'll just assume not and I'll close this one down'.
It is annoying when people don't respond to an invite, if they're worried about covid or just don't want to go they could just say they can't make it!

@Redlocks28 just invited them out for some drinks, it’s something we always did as a group of colleagues.

@onedayoranother yes the group is literally called birthday drinks, they haven’t responded to me but are using the chat to talk to each other about their birthdays and babies/work. :( I just wish they’d say one way or another. Will be seeing them all tonight and feel like it’s going to be awkward now

You sound like you are always invested in people who just are not that invested into you. Who makes 2 whatsapp groups for a birthday?? Honest opinion, you do sound exhausting, considering your earlier post about other friends who you are now not friends with.

If people want to spend time with you on your birthday, they will make the effort. Don’t force it.