Ugh dickhead

[scorpiogirly]

So I got drunk on Wednesday and thought it would be a good idea to break NC of 9 days to try to get some kind of explanation or apology from my ex. It was clear there was no empathy or remorse, instead he basically turned it on me. So I asked him outright what it meant to him, and was he lying to me or his ex, he told his ex it was a mistake, just sex, meant nothing etc.

So he said at first he couldn't talk about this stuff and if we're going to be in contact it will have to be conversations like what books have you read lately? Wtf? So I realised it was a mistake messaging him to get anything at all in the way of an explanation. So I sent a last message telling him i shouldn't have messaged, that he's basically like a stranger and that u hD never felt so disposable in my entire life. Most of the conversation took place the next day. I wished him well and intended to leave it. I had my closure I guess, he didn't care.
Then he sent an apology stating that he was sorry about it all, that he does care for me obviously even if his actions don't show it and that it most definitely didn't mean nothing. I ignored it. A few hours later he blocked me. Maybe because he was angry I didn't reply?

Anyway today I notice he unblocked me. And now I've just noticed I'm blocked again. What the actual fuck?

Ex what? Husband, boyfriend or partner?

How long were you together and what does his ex have to do with it?

Ah dear. Started talking in July became physical in September. Moved quite quickly. His ex, the mother of their son who he's not yet divorced from didn't like the idea of our relationship when he told her, threatening to take the house and stop him seeing their son so he bolted.

Trying to get closure from an ex is never going to be like in the films. It never goes the way we had imagined. Don’t torture yourself on him blocking or unblocking you. That is also going to play havoc with your emotions.

His choice is to behave this way towards you and you also have a choice here and that is to not be available for anymore emotional torture. Take care of yourself and try and dislodge yourself from thinking about him or how he use to be. Just be you

What is your question??

So you were together about 3 months?

It's a shame when relationships come to an end but it sounds like it has, so stop contacting him now and checking to see whether you're blocked/unblocked etc.

Sorry, I guess why the blocking and unblocking again. He did this for pretty much the whole of last week every day. I didn't say anything rude in my parting message.

I'm getting there, focusing on myself and decluttering my house after Christmas.

Delete his number?

@WorraLiberty

So you were together about 3 months?

It's a shame when relationships come to an end but it sounds like it has, so stop contacting him now and checking to see whether you're blocked/unblocked etc.

Physically but before that we spoke every day since July pretty much with phone calls. I think he was a future faker or love bomber. He wanted me to get pregnant and told me he loved me.

I'm actually wondering about that now. His son has severe non verbal autism with learning difficulties. Still in nappies at 6yrs old. I am wondering if the reason he wanted a child so quickly is that there would be someone to care for his son? I know that sounds bad but it's the only reason I can think of.

I have deleted his number, I haven't deleted the chat on whatsapp yet. I will soon. I'm not checking all the time. Its only when I go on to send my friend a message.