Is this OK?

[Moff2k]

Been with DP 2 years. We don't live together, he has 2 kids 50% of the time, I'm with him the other 50%. I have 2 grown up dc so this works.
He co parents with his ex of 5 years. They are polite and civil but not friends really,although they are in touch a lot by email and text for things to do with the dc
I've just seen on am email DP has left open that he is still on his exw private medical insurance that she pays for ?
She's single and has a well paid job and I assume has agreed to keep him on.
It's really bothered me and I don't know why ?
I think it's just further compounded my worries that are still linked in some way.
I won't lie , the texts and emails back and forth really annoy me.
Would the insurance cover bother you ?

Not in the slightest. I'd be happy he had some medical cover.

She's protecting her children's interests if you want to look it objectively.

I am like this with my exh. Coparenting means that you do still have to make decisions together that have an impact on the children and this is one of them. We still have a joint life insurance policy for example (plus I have one of the family slots on his spotify and he has my netflix log in- much more fun!)

I consider him one of my very best friends in that I care about his wellbeing in the same way as my best female friends- but he is just that. A friend. We have children together and coparenting means we can't disregard each others' wellbeing and will be obviously kind to each other, what role models would we be otherwise?

I would find it difficult to be in a relationship with a man who was not kind in friendship terms to the mother of his children.

She's being very sensible. If anything happens to him she will be compensated for loss of his financial contributions towards upkeep of the DC.

He doesn't contribute to the dc financially he has them 5050.
She also pays for the insurance policy, he doesn't.

I don't know. Its just part of my unsettled feeling about how still linked together they are.

The texting and emails are necessary. They have to communicate about their children.

@Moff2k Only you know what sort of person she is, but from what you've disclosed, I would say she sounds like a decent person who wants to ensure he has private medical cover in case he ever needs it. And, as pp pointed out, it's in her interests as he is the father of her children!

Does she get a second person at a discount?
If she’s paying full price he’s being unreasonable and should just open his own health insurance.
If she’s getting a discount he should at least be paying her the difference.

This would irritate me too tbh

Maybe she's forgotten he's still on it?
I can't see why she'd want to carry it on knowing he doesn't give anything financially.

Wouldn't bother me either, we still have joint life cover. That will obviously change when I remarry but for now we are covered so that if anything happens to either of us the other parent can support the children.

I would also help him out in the same way too if he was struggling, he is and always will be a close friend, NOTHING romantic at all but I'll always care about him, like I would any other member of my family

I co-parented 50/50 with my ex. You need to be on same page for so many things or it won't work. He and this woman are part of each others lives because of their kids. More so if the co-parented. Sorry but maybe he is not the man for you. His kids will always come first as it should be.

Does she pay for the policy out of her own pocket, or is it paid by her employer? If the latter, it could be a case they agreed to keep him on it.

They will be linked forever because of the children.

The health insurance is sensible.

Be glad they are not at eachother’s throats.

Yh i would really hate this tbh, but i also know im not cut out for a relationship with someone who has an ex and kids