Men liking other women's pictures

[Mumofboys86]

We all know men look at other women and its normal .. but if your partner knows you have big insecurities about your body ( after having children) especially my boobs (desperately want a breast enlargement to make me feel more confident in the bedroom) he always likes provocative pics of other women with big boobs and even though he knows how disgusting it makes me feel. Couldn't care if it was celebs etc.. its getting to a point where I actually think he has a problem, he follows thousands of model/only fans girls on Instagram. I would never tell him to delete them but I just don't understand why someone would have them on there when they know it makes their partner feel so crap. Nearly two years we been together both in our 30s. Just feel like I'm not good enough. Especially when an ex of his was a glamour model. Cant keep feeling like this

What do men think they gain by clicking on clicking like on a photo of an attention grabbing female?

@Mumofboys86 Ah, I see. I guess social media makes this harder, because you can see it all even when he's not right there with you. I'm a man (in case that's relevant) and I wouldn't want to put my wife in this situation, so I wouldn't do this on social media, but I think some men feel like they have the right to do it. It sounds grim, but unfortunately it doesn't sound like he's likely to change. You've told him how you feel and he still does it, so all you can really do is decide whether you still want to be with him (if he's going to be like this for years to come) or not. I'm sorry that I don't have a better suggestion.

He can follow who he likes on SM, for you to try and police this would be controlling, but by the same token you can choose to be in relationship with him, or not.

Imagine him trying to tell you who to like and who not to like?

@Abbo552

He can follow who he likes on SM, for you to try and police this would be controlling, but by the same token you can choose to be in relationship with him, or not.

Imagine him trying to tell you who to like and who not to like?

I've never told him who he can and cannot follow, he even offered to delete his insta and make a new one and I told him I would never ask him to do that. but when it's thousands of the same types of accounts like only fans girls and advertising porn, for someone who supposedly loves u supposedly respects your feelings then to carry on following these accounts even after they know how it makes them feel then it's not really about that but more about being disrespectful. If I followed thousands of men all ripped and half naked and I knew my partner felt insecure about their body I wouldn't think twice than to just unfollow them. Just about consideration for your partner.

I wouldn't want to be with someone so shallow and into appearances that they wanted to follow thousands of other people just based on what they look like

This is about your boundaries @Mumofboys86 this isn’t by about you being ‘controlling’, these are hardly his ‘friends’ he’s following.

He’s crossing your boundaries. Only you can decide on how you want to proceed. Your boundaries are there to help you feel safe and his behaviour doesn’t make you feel safe, valued and respected. Have an super honest conversation with him, and see what he does as a response OR make a decision on whether you can stay with a man whose behaviour hurts you.

Totally agree with @Ladybugzrock. He sounds gross.

My ex was like this and it really upset me - I told him and he deleted them all. You're right about it being about respecting your partner. You're still in what should be the honeymoon period, he should be doing everything in his power to make you feel good and should he respects you.