Kissing a new man, what if he’s not a good kisser?

[LosingTheWill2]

I am in the very early stages with a new man. After a long marriage and a few dates with men I have met online, I have finally met someone I like. We have been on one date, and he didn’t try to ‘snog’ me at the end of the date, which I was so grateful for. Every date I have been on previously they have tried, I am in no way a prude but I don’t want to kiss a man I have never met before and don’t find attractive.
This guy is lovely, we have spoken and messaged loads and (hopefully) there will be a time when we kiss. I find him funny and engaging and I am attracted to him.
AIBU to worry that he won’t be a good kisser? I have only been intimate with one man in 22 years and I am missing that side of life. It’s not something that I want to rush into but if my ‘new’ man isn’t a good kisser I am worried that it will put me off him?

I would say that kissing is something you can train a partner in, much more than sex. I have encountered at least one absolutely terrible kisser who was amazing in bed.

I think if you like their smell, you are excited by their touch and you want to kiss them, don't worry too much about it. And I wouldn't advise trying to train them on the first night! Just see what happens and don't despair.

What if you're not a good kisser and it puts him off you? Or...what if he's the best kisser ever and makes so you go all weak at the knees?

Honestly, try not to over-think it. If you want to kiss him, kiss him and just try to have fun. Dating is meant to be fun as well as an audition.

I met a new man this time last year and worried about the same thing. As others have said, it’s something that can be worked on.
I had nothing to worry about in the end.
There’s only one way to find out 😉

My current squeeze was a terrible kisser to begin with. He was very inexperienced and it amazed me. He had been trained….

He has been trained!

I wouldn’t over think this

How exciting!!!

It's a nice worry to have.

Honestly, I haven't kissed a bad kisser. I think if you fancy them and vice versa, it just sort of works.

Make sure you kiss him twice though.

That way you won't overanalyse it.

Let him kiss you then a bit later kiss him back (he'll be pleased and less nervous the second time).

What if he thinks your not a good kisser ?

I will definitely take his lead in this and respond accordingly 😳.

Thank you all for your lovely words, I didn’t realise that kissing could be taught. Our second date is brunch on Monday, I will update then!

I might be a bad kisser! Maybe he’ll have to teach me 😁

Sit on his face and relax. The need for air may do the trick.

I'm not the voice of experience, but from what I heard, the way that a lot, if not the majority of women want to kiss is different to the way that men want to kiss, or the way men think kissing should be.

It seems like men want to slobber over women's face more. They enjoy the sloppy experience maybe. Is that bad kissing they should be trained out of? Who knows!?

@Magnited

@Magnited gosh that sounds like a dream in my life right now!

OP - I agree, this is a lovely dilemma to have. Whatever happens, I hope he turns out to be a wonderful kisser.

@Magnited 🤣🤣😜😳🤷🏼‍♀️😝

First kisses are usually awkward so don't worry too much. And enjoy!

I thought I was a mediocre kisser at best but my last boyfriend said I was really good at it. And he was the best kisser ever, made my knees tremble. We kissed on our first date and it was fantastic. Pity it didn't last to be honest, the times we spent the night together we couldn't stop kissing

Op, I recently started kissing someone new and lord jaysus first time it was a disaster lol

I hate kissing so was dressed in but then we had a kiss and now I can't stop.

I'll be seeing him tomorrow and I will indeed be sitting on his face 😂

Sometimes the first kiss pace can be a bit of a mismatch, in which case it's perhaps worth a second attempt. But if its still no good after that, I don't see them again. I've found if they are a bad kisser they are often a mismatch in bed too.

Any washing machine kissers or lip biting weirdos or lip size mis-matches on kiss one, they don't get a second try.

Always get the kiss out of the way by the end of date 2 when pos.

Hi All,
Had the second date today!!!
First kiss was not 100%, a bit big and wet (he’s a big fella so that’s what I put it down to 😁😜)
By the fifth or sixth I was enjoying it 🤣

If it was a first date and if I didn’t like him, I probably wouldn’t bother, but I really like him so I think it’s something we can work on. He says I’m a great kisser btw.

Thank you for all your help.

That is sooooo many kisses though!

Lovely to read your update.

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