What is ”emotional connection”?

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Can I have some examples?

It’s a bond between two people, you’re tied by the same feeling, say, you both feel sad when you see an old lady walking alone. Or you both get giddy with excitement when you have massive ice creams. Something like that. Why?

Because I’ve read it lately so many times here and I realised that I don’t think I know what that means.

Also probably explains why I always feel disconnected and lonely with/around people.

I feel an emotional connection with someone usually when you have a bonding experience like cuddling on a sofa chatting about music or finding out a new colleague likes the same book or makes you laugh. Bit of eye contact - generally feeling the humanity of the other person etc.

I think it's when you can read and understand each other even when not saying much, or you can sit comfortably in silence and still feel close to one another, and also have a desire to regularly be around each other because it feels good.

It's a bond, a feeling that you share with someone that makes you WANT to see / hear from / spend time with them (either friend or partner).

When you find humour in a situation and you meet someone's eye and realise that they find it funny too. And both of you are struggling not to laugh.

When you're looking down at your tantruming toddler lying screaming on the floor of the shopping centre because they want to go into the toy shop and you've drawn the line and said no and someone passing you smiles sympathetically and says 'I remember those days' (happened to me last week).

When you're walking on a cold crisp sunny day and just smiling because the day is so nice and someone walking in the opposite direction smiles back and you're both obviously feeling so happy.

Actually, your post makes me feel a little sad because I've realised that I haven't had any real emotional connection with my DH for a long time. We've become disconnected due to too much pressure (work and other things). Most of the recent examples I can think of are with friends/complete strangers.

Knowing the signs of someone's mood/emotions instinctively and knowing how to respond in the best way to that. Like knowing when someone needs a hug without them having to ask, knowing when someone needs a bit of space, that kind of thing

I think it's that thing of 'getting' someone. Outside of a romantic relationship, where I think it's a bit of a given, my example is that I have a really good friend. I met her in passing at a baby group and she sort of instigated us meeting up again. I wasn't sure because we have nothing in common other than our children being the same age, and we are very very different in so many ways.

But somehow, we 'get', each other. She knows what I'm thinking without me saying a word and she knows when I need support or to hear something funny or to be given a kick up the bum. And likewise, I'm the same for her. We are really comfortable together and somehow, she is a really important part of my life.

For me it's about being with someone and having them feel seen and heard exactly as they are, and exactly as they're not, without trying to change anything.

It's anything that creates the feeling of "I see you, and you're not alone", and the relief of revealing our shared humanity.

And while that can be a nice moment that just occurs out of nowhere, it's also something that we can all actively practice with everyone we encounter.

You understand and accept each other, even the ugly bits. 🙂❤️

Being in tune with who you are and how you feel, and sharing that with someone.

I once invited a toddler over for a play date and obviously the mum stayed. We had such a lovely chat, we could finish each other’s sentences, liked the same shops, similar ways of bringing up our kids. I still consider her one of my best friends ten years later.

It took time with my partner, probably due to our insecurities at the start of the relationship, but the lust was intense. About a year into the relationship- in the middle of the first lockdown when we were apart - he said something about my feelings that I hadn’t articulated and I was blown away by how perceptive he’d been and how he just got me. I think that was when I started to relax about the relationship. Now he’s my best friend and I think we tell each other everything first even though we have other friends we’ve known longer.

It’s what I thought I had with my recent x of 5 yrs..then I realised after he gaslit me he was a narcissist..I now never know wether I’ll
Trust anyone who seems to have things in common with me again