So I started seeing this chap just 5 weeks ago and it was all very lovely and as we both were winding down at work for Christmas and had 2 full weeks off we spent a lot of time talking, texting, spending time together, and although we agreed that we would take things slowly it got quite intense.
However, we're now back to work. We both have kids (me full time, him part time) and our lives were already full before we met. So messaging has dropped off especially during the day and we're unlikely to have time to meet up in the week. It's taken me aback a bit and I was feeling quite sad.
Then I had a word with myself - it's meant to be easy at this stage and it really is, it's only in my head that it's a problem. I think because we were so available over the last few weeks it set the bar high, it was too much too soon. From today I'm reframing it - we've already agreed that we're exclusive and that we'll see each other whenever we can - so I'm taking a step back, spending time with friends and hoping the spark is still as strong when we do see each other. Otherwise if it was just a bit of fun over Christmas then that's OK, it really was fun!
Obviously I'm hoping we continue to see each other, I really like him, but it's early days and I really don't want to overthink this!