Can't stand my son being with MIL

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This could be controversial but my MiL is an anxious wreck and makes my sons nerves bad.. she literally hovers over him when he plays in the back garden or when on the park, she's terrible.. "be careful, mind that!"

He is only 3 and a sensitive one at that.. she hates him getting "messy" and says not to go in the sandpit..?!? Wtf

My husband has no backbone when it comes to her at all, anything he does bring up or go into slight conflict about she cries.

She's only 68.. guess I have to be the one to step up and say for her to back off in a polite way (not my natural, I'm more bullish)

She is staying with us this weekend - help!!

Agree entirely with saraclara.

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This could be controversial but my MiL is an anxious wreck and makes my sons nerves bad.. she literally hovers over him when he plays in the back garden or when on the park, she's terrible.. "be careful, mind that!"

He is only 3 and a sensitive one at that.. she hates him getting "messy" and says not to go in the sandpit..?!? Wtf

My husband has no backbone when it comes to her at all, anything he does bring up or go into slight conflict about she cries.

She's only 68.. guess I have to be the one to step up and say for her to back off in a polite way (not my natural, I'm more bullish)

She is staying with us this weekend - help!!

I wouldn't be that polite...

@frozendaisy

We had an overly protective grandma.

Honestly just be gentle "he's ok"
She probably doesn't want to do anything "wrong".

She brought up the man you married so she can't be completely useless. Try getting her to talk about how she was as a mum when DH was 3, it might help her remember that you can take a few chances. In a year or two when DS is 5 he will take the lead anyway. "Don't worry grandma" etc.

It won't be forever.
Try and find a gentle way around this.

Her DH doesn't stand up to her so he's clearly used to caving to her ways. So not sure that I agree with you there