I have been such a twat

[scorpiogirly]

I have stayed off the booze, had a drink tonight and thought it would be a good idea to message ex. Not good at all. I feel more shit than ever and he wasn't receptive, just kept saying that anything he says to me will be passed on. Then just ignored me and I feel shit. Let this be a lesson to anyone thinking about contacting an ex.

How long have you been split up?

Just over a week embarrassingly.

Passed on to whom?

Well me and his ex who I kinda know had words. There's a backstop surrounding it.

So this is a new ex rather than your long term abusive ex? Did you split because of abusive ex's meddling?

Oh ok.

No we split because his ex didn't want me around his child apparently.

And did you find out that wasn't the case when you had words with her?

What did the message say?

What?

No. He was basically keeping me a secret from everyone, in particular his ex. He told her and she didn't like it so he bolted. I've been doing okay until tonight when I had a drind and decided it would be a good idea to message. It really wasn't.

You've got nothing to feel like shit about. He should feel lime shit for trying to keep you as a secret.

It sounds like too much drama anyway. The block button comes in handy sometimes

Like, not lime.

It's pathetic. He's blocked and unblocked me for about a week. I thought he'd be receptive if I tried taking. Nope. Slightly drunk now which I shouldn't be. I'm sure I'll feel better tomorrow .

Never mind OP. You've seen the measure of him now. Delete his number and keep your dignity. Chin up.

On the he sliding scale of being a twat, messaging a recent ex is very minor OP. Don't be hard on yourself.

Sounds like a lucky escape to me - you want someone who's proud to be with you, not hiding you from a meddling ex.

Too much drama.

He’s the twat not you.