Really struggling with my 3 year olds behaviour. Nothing is ever right. Wrong shoes, wrong cup, wrong bowl, no to bed, no to toilet, no to breakfast.
My DH and I separated during the summer although still under the same roof, awaiting house sale. We get on mostly, but I'm struggling with his inconsistent parenting approaches. He gives her more attention when she misbehaves and the eldest child (really laid back and as good as gold) misses out on attention.
He's always interferring, always loitering in a doorway when I'm dealing with her, causing her to then become delirious and cry for him because he gives in.
Also, I don't know how to deal with these constant meltdowns. I've tried walking away and only giving attention to good behaviour, but tonight she went in to my son who was unwell and sleeping and woke him crying in one of her rages. I was furious and shouted at her so loudly that I scared her. Then, of course, hero Daddy appears in the doorway, ready to give in to her every whim.
But she is also doing the same with him, pushes and pushes him until he tells her off and then she wants me. This morning, she tantrummed all morning undressing herself as I was dressing her for nursery and made me late for work.
I don't now what to do about
A) her behaviour
B) DHs unhelpful sabotage and interfering
This evening, I was doing bedtime, all was going smoothly until he shouted upstairs "you've left your teddy bear book at nursery so you'll have to have a different story tonight." Cue: meltdowns.
He could have said nothing and let me select a different story. He's either tactless or purposely sabotaging my time with her. He should have been reading with our eldest, but as always, found a reason to be there, interfering with our youngest.