Splitting from husband with 16 month old son - tell me this gets easier?

[foreverworryingmum21]

Day 1 of the decision being made.. I'm sure lots of you out there have felt this terrible pain.
Only been married 2 years - many many problems in the marriage (Mainly my husband not being able to control his bpd and consistently acting out/lying to me/breaking promises/breaking trust) As a codependent I have been able to keep forgiving him and seeing the best in him, always believing with enough love (and therapy - which he has been doing and there have been improvements - but not enough) we would get there. And to be fair, with time and therapy he has been getting better - "destructive impulses" slowing down and more far apart, etc, but so much damage has been done and I'm so resentful now.
Not wanting hate on him - he did have a very difficult and abusive childhood, and has not chosen to be this way. Not saying that's why I'll stay but just don't feel hating him is the way to go.
And so I've reached the end of what I can cope with. So he's moving out, and we're "separating". I'm so so sad- for all the many good times we have had, for all the special family moments with our gorgeous son. Financially we are very secure and he will provide, but how can I come to terms with the sadness of raising my son in our house alone (his dad will be very involved and coparent with me - but there will still be a lot of alone time, won't there?). What will the future hold? How do you cope wiht the loss of identity as a family unit, and be on your own?
Help xx

I’ve been divorced though didnt have a child. I think you have to keep yourself busy.

You will have hard times but it doesnt sound like your marriage was much fun. You are still a family unit. Its easy to think of all the good times but when you do instead think of the bad times and you’ll feel better that you are now in a calm home environment, which will be more settling for your son. Get a good routine of childcare set up asap and make sure you protect yourself financially and dont trust him to do the right thing as things change

I guarantee this will be the making of you, it was for me when my exh ended our marriage it felt like the end of my world, it was actually the start!

@foreverworryingmum21

Day 1 of the decision being made.. I'm sure lots of you out there have felt this terrible pain. Only been married 2 years - many many problems in the marriage (Mainly my husband not being able to control his bpd and consistently acting out/lying to me/breaking promises/breaking trust) As a codependent I have been able to keep forgiving him and seeing the best in him, always believing with enough love (and therapy - which he has been doing and there have been improvements - but not enough) we would get there. And to be fair, with time and therapy he has been getting better - "destructive impulses" slowing down and more far apart, etc, but so much damage has been done and I'm so resentful now. Not wanting hate on him - he did have a very difficult and abusive childhood, and has not chosen to be this way. Not saying that's why I'll stay but just don't feel hating him is the way to go. And so I've reached the end of what I can cope with. So he's moving out, and we're "separating". I'm so so sad- for all the many good times we have had, for all the special family moments with our gorgeous son. Financially we are very secure and he will provide, but how can I come to terms with the sadness of raising my son in our house alone (his dad will be very involved and coparent with me - but there will still be a lot of alone time, won't there?). What will the future hold? How do you cope wiht the loss of identity as a family unit, and be on your own? Help xx

Oh darling, I'm sure this will get easier. You just have to take one day at a time and see how you feel in time. You have to do what is best for you and your child