BF falls asleep on couch every night.

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We don't live together. We are together for the last five days and each evening , he falls asleep really early.
We've planned lovely evenings watching films, documentaries etc and he is asleep or dozing beside me.
Last night I got really cross as again he fell asleep 5 mins into a film at 8 pm. I told him that I may aswell be on my own.He felt bad and tried to stay awake but I just asked him to go to bed at that stage as he was cross that I wouldn't let it go.
He normally sleeps from 10-6.
No illness or health problems but very unfit.
WWYD . My exh did this exact thing every night and it was horribly lonely for years.

Exb used to do this.
Discovered he hadn't told me he was diabetic and wasn't taking his meds. Idiot.

I sympathise OP, my DP can be a little like this, though not quite to the same extent. It is super annoying when it's not just once in a while.

When we were first together he would always fall asleep when we watched a film and it did my head in to the point where we did argue about it.

I have found it best to just try and avoid it happening - so I leave the lights on when we're watching a film/TV, don't start films after about 7pm, don't lay down, don't watch anything good when DP has had a drink so is more likely to doze off.

It's very frustrating, we've literally been watching series that we've ended up ditching because he's fallen asleep during an episode and so doesn't know what's going on, but can't admit it because he knows I'll be pissed off 😂

How old is he? Men seem to be very prone to this from mid 40s onwards. I find it incredibly irritating too.

Poor guy.I always fall asleep after watching 10min. of telly.what time in the morning do you normally get up?if your partner gets up at 6am,he will naturally be tired at 8pm.have a communication with him in regards to tiredness instead of watching the box.

I do this too, but get how annoying it probably is for others! Maybe do something other than watch TV.

Maybe you just aren't compatible? I could never be with someone who slept from 10 till 6 as a rule... as I'm a night owl! Wed never see each other and we'd both be miserable if we tried to follow the others sleeping patterns
I would be very lonely dating someone who fell asleep early every single night!
I've had some issues with my husband going to bed at different times than me because he likes to stay up even later than I do and needs less sleep than me! But we were able to compromise so that he goes to bed a little earlier when he has work and I go to bed a little late to stay up with him on the weekend.... but in this case we are talking about an hour or so, so it wasnt that hard...
If he was trying to go to sleep at 9pm or something and I wanted to go to sleep at midnight that might not be a situation we could resolve.

So don't watch tv then. Leave watching tv for when you're on your own as you don't need company for that. Play a game, go for a walk, chat, start doing a hobby together, do a crossword, puzzle etc

@Whatwouldscullydo

I used to just go to bed without him. I know how hard these jobs are - I get it. But so is my job. It was one of the many many reasons I left him

Its the assumption that someone else would just do it that's the biggest issue.

I mean what if both just decided to sleep. Who'd wash up or take the bins out or walk the dog, prepare packed lunches.

And who is it that having me that choice I the evening knows that they then have to get up even earlier to do what didnt get done the nigh before..

100%. There was a lot more to it in my marriage. I had zero help with childcare full stop. He would come in from work, put the football on, have football bets, fall asleep. I'd wake him for his tea and then he would just fall back asleep. His diet was awful but he just assumed as he had a manual job he was fit and healthy. He was far from it.

I would wake up at 6.30 and finally sit down for the night at 9.30/10pm. I felt I had to have everything done as like you say - I'd only have to do it in the morning. He would just get up and go to work, come home, moan about work and then sleep.

There's only so much you can take

I'm often in bed by 9pm. But then I'm 60 years old and work full time in the nhs. When I was young I'd be out all evening then up again at 6.

You wait until the menopause, you'll be asleep all the time

Has he been at work all day? What time does he get up?

I often go to bed at 8pm after a day at work. I’ve been up since 6am and an knackered!

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

You wait until the menopause, you'll be asleep all the time

Very true!

Could you go out more in the evenings? Mix it up a bit with a trip to the pub/restaurant/cinema/bowling alley?

@ANameChangeAgain

Mine has always done this, particularly in the winter when its cold out and warm indoors. He's up at 5am & works outdoors. Once he is on the sofa in front of the log burner he's asleep.

Mines the same. He’s up at 5am and works 10-12 hour shifts outdoors. He’s ok in the summer as it’s warm and we tend to sit in the garden in the evenings. When he’s it’s winter and he’s been out in Baltic conditions it’s literally walk through the door, quick shower and dinner and then he’s flat out on the couch, it really takes it out of him. For the person complaining about having to do evening chores by themselves, it’s not hard to combat this by doing them together before anyone sits down for the evening

@ANameChangeAgain

Mine has always done this, particularly in the winter when its cold out and warm indoors. He's up at 5am & works outdoors. Once he is on the sofa in front of the log burner he's asleep.

Aww sounds really sweet and cosy tbh