Sex makes me anxious

[21henrycavil]

Hi I have been having trouble with being intimate with my fiancé of 11 years. It started a few years ago where I was convinced I had persistent general arousal disorder and it frightened the crap out of me.
I constantly felt Randy and it got to a point where I was ready to end it all because I couldn't deal with the feelings . I also had a extremely high sex drive since my teens. I'm late 30s now.
For the past year I have managed to have sex 5 times and it is affecting our relationship. I have no interest in sex what so ever anymore because even the thought of it makes me anxious. I have been put on a very high dose of sertraline. 200 mg daily which I suspect has made me lose interest. But I can't explain the anxiety around it all .
If he comes near me in bed my stomach turns and I get all worried . I dread going to bed because I think he will try and initiate sex . Last time we done it afterwards I just started crying to myself . I felt so low and deflated.
I'm just wondering if anyone has been through this ? And if so did it last long ? I can't watch sex on tv because that starts my anxiety off too 😥. Thankyou

Have you spoken to him about it?
Have you seen a therapist for the anxiety?

Sounds like you're trying to deal with this alone when it's actually a relationship issue. If it weren't for your partner's needs, you'd be simply choosing not to have sex for the time being, and that would be fine. Sex isn't something you're obliged to have.

What would he say if you told him how you felt, do you think? Or does he know already?

Aww love that is a tough one isn't it.
You need to talk to him about how you are feeling and seek some form of therapy for yourself.

@TheFoundation

Sounds like you're trying to deal with this alone when it's actually a relationship issue. If it weren't for your partner's needs, you'd be simply choosing not to have sex for the time being, and that would be fine. Sex isn't something you're obliged to have.

What would he say if you told him how you felt, do you think? Or does he know already?

But at the same time, lots of people (men and women), think sex is important in a relationship as it keeps the bond and closeness going, you already acknowledge that it is affecting your relationship, you certainly cannot keep this to yourself.

Not to this extent but I had a traumatic child birth and had no sex drive for around a year afterwards. It affected my relationship and we got into a cycle of me feeling like husband was a sex pest and him feeling rejected by me and hurt. It helped so so much to finally sit down and talk about it and over time my ptsd has faded away. Hope you figure things out.