I’m so disappointed right now..

[Janjan22]

So I’d been with my partner for 5yrs.
After a year or so he randomly gave me the silent treatment. Back then I took it as some sort of breakdown. Time passed, huge gaps went by, good times..we had so much in common, I have so many memories..the plans he was making for us..but then he’d do something and I’d pull him up..he’d sulk and ignore me. I’m ashamed to say I made everything right each time.
Jump to now..he did something minor before Xmas..he wouldn’t have it though and for the 1st time started gaslighting me. I knew it was game over and told him to leave.
Weeks went by..nothing. Xmas has passed..new year has passed and no contact from him at all.
So I still had some stuff of his and reminded him to come and get it. He replied amazingly straight away and made a comment about my nails…I mean it’s just unbelievable. Nails??!! After 2 months of nothing..it’s like I’ve dreamt the last few years and someone else is messaging me. I’ve ignored and will continue to do so. Some men are absolute jokes aren’t they?!

Block and move on. Either send him his stuff or pack it up and let him know its been left outside and he should collect it before it gets stolen

I agree with @Fairycake2 and well done for recognising it and taking an action to end it - I salute you.
Yeah some blokes are, some women too 🤷‍♀️ just unhealthy way some ppl learnt to exist. Well done again for not letting him exploit you and try not to dwell on it, you cant rationalise this behaviour. Grieve and move on. Best wishes❤️

@Janjan22

Jump to now..he did something minor before Xmas..he wouldn’t have it though and for the 1st time started gaslighting me. I knew it was game over and told him to leave.

Wow, good for you, OP. So many wouldn't have had the strength or self-respect to do this and follow through. Living with someone who tries to control you with silent treatment, stonewalling and other similar behaviour is deeply unattractive and manipulative and makes an equal relationship impossible. I'm glad you've cut him out if your life. Stay strong. 🌹

Well done op honestly well done . Keep it up and don't let the prick back in although I know it can be hard.

Thanks all. It’s a very sad situation really as when he isn’t acting like a man baby he’s a lovely man. We had so much in common, no ties & I felt had a laugh. It’s something he won’t change though and sees no wrong in how he’s behaving. To also act like he’s in agreement with me when he was making lots of future plans messed your head up.

It’s a very sad situation really as when he isn’t acting like a man baby he’s a lovely man.

No. That's not what it is.

It's a very sad situation as he's a man baby who can sometimes play the part of a lovely man

Lovely people are just that. Lovely. Normal, fair, kind. That's who they are - and if he was, this thread wouldn't exist.

He can act lovely, he can make you feel good, but it isn't the truth. It isn't him deep down.

Lucky escape.