How to get over that soul crushing feeling at beginning of the end.

[Anxietyandwine]

DH left just before Christmas, I don’t want to go into the details but we’ve been crap to each other. (No affairs or DV etc). We have 10yo and a toddler.

Tonight he’s said it’s really over where as before there was a glimmer of (false) hope about working on it. ‘You’re not the girl I fell in love with etc’

I feel broken. I thought the last 2 weeks were bad but this is horrific. I want to sit in a corner and sob, I can’t stop shaking, I feel like I’m going to be sick constantly and can hardly eat for weeks now.

There is no way to avoid this is it? Just have to accept and start to process and realise this feeling is part of it? So hard to hold it together around the kids tonight.

So sorry you're going through this.
You're not the girl he fell in love with?! - you've had 2 children! I bet he's not quite the man you fell in love with either!
Do you all a favour and get to bed. A book or film for you to help pass the time.

It’s just time. You’ve got to grieve. Come to terms with it. But try to eat. Even if it’s just something light. I found I could only eat melon when I went through a bad break up. Be kind to yourself. Have a bath (cry there if it helps!). Change your bedroom a bit, make it feel new/yours. Baby steps.. you’ll get there.

It's the grieving process OP, the physical pain of loss. I've been there, it's bloody awful, but it DOES get better, it just takes time

Part of it is huge anxiety about everything - how you are going to live , what's going to happen etc . It's not known as the Divorce Diet for nothing . I was unable to eat very much for weeks . It is horrible but time will help . Your body is under a huge amount of stress . Keep drinking fluids ( not booze ) and try to eat a small amount .

I just never thought we were at that point you know? I thought it was all gonna work out so it’s almost like im in shock tonight.

I went through a terrible break up last year. Was at rock bottom, struggled to get out of bed, eat, concentrate on tv or anything. Everyone was so worried about me. Nothing anyone says just now will help the pain but I promise u it does get easier, you will look back & wonder why you cried so many tears. Keep yourself busy with friends & family, I couldn't have done it without mine. I'm now with someone mew, early days but happiest I've been in years.