To ask how you move on from stuff like this?

[Sofiegiraffe]

People who you considered friends being really shitty, saying unpleasant things, and then just cutting you off as if you didn't exist? Why can't I just be one of those people who goes "fuck off then, I don't care"..? I can't do this. I've taken every last word to heart and I now believe it all. I believe I'm an awful person. I'm so low. I have two babies, I need to feel better for them, they are my world. Can anyone help with how I just forget this nastiness, move on and find my sense of worth again?

I hope this makes sense, I'm exhausted from hours of anxious overthinking and anxiety attacks.

Sorry you’re feeling so low @Sofiegiraffe. It’s hard to shake things off isn’t it. I’m sure you’re a lovely mum and your dc are looking forward to seeing you when they wake. How old are they?

This person who said these things to you is deeply inadequate and well aware of it. They do it to make themselves feel better/superior.
That’s why they can say those hurtful things and then cut you off with no backwards glance. Because if they were a decent person that would be impossible for them.

You just need to ignore them and not let them get to you mentally. I know how easy it is to say when it reality it’s very difficult. But that’s the truth.
I was in an abusive relationship and I recognise it well, these people try bring you down and leech off of your insecurities and try create new insecurities. It’s very hard to learn how to think rationally again after being afflicted by such a person, but you will get back to normal. You just need to learn it’s all their problem and there’s nothing wrong with you.

You are not an awful person at all! And to your children, you are the whole world.

I'm going to hazard a guess that the nasty things they've said aren't true, or have been massively exaggerated to fit their agenda?

Are they the kind of person who has been horrible about others to you in the past?

Are you generally an anxious person, or is it just this that’s caused it ?
If you are generally, have you spoken to anyone about it ?

@girlmom21

I'm going to hazard a guess that the nasty things they've said aren't true, or have been massively exaggerated to fit their agenda?

Are they the kind of person who has been horrible about others to you in the past?

Yes, and yes

@GoodnightGrandma

Are you generally an anxious person, or is it just this that’s caused it ? If you are generally, have you spoken to anyone about it ?

Yes I'm generally anxious and I've struggled a lot since my 2nd dc was born

Have you spoken to anyone about it ? HV, GP ?

The anxious over thinking cycle is horrible and you need to break it. Ask yourself what good is over analysing and thinking about this doing you? No good I would imagine so what is the point of continuing to give this person head space. I hope you can get some rl help as well.

@Sofiegiraffe then it's her and not you. You're just her latest victim. Don't let it beat you down because she's a horrible person.

Don’t listen to the horrible person. I hope you’re feeling calmer now.

Please chat to your HV. 💐