So hurt!

[Lilly1812]

Just found out my husband lied to me about going to a work meeting just to go and meet an online date. He even slept with her just meeting her for the first time. He's done so many things to hurt me but I always stay because of the kids. This has hurt me so badly just because he was meant to be picking up the kids from school as I had a hospital appointment. Because of this date, he left my kids at school and my older son has to come back from secondary school to pick them up. How can he leave his kids at school just because he was running late from seeing the lady. How can I trust him to look after the kids when something happens to me? I just want to walk away with the kids cause I don't think I can forgive him this time.

Having been in a similar situation and staying for the sake of the kids, trust me, you are doing them no favors. They'll adjust while they're younger much easier than when they're older. Don't waste your life with this hurtful 'man'. You and your children deserve better.
Make 2022 your year .. I wish you well & send you a virtual hug 🤗

OP I was also 19 when I started dating my ExH and 36 when I kicked him out. It can be done and you will get through it. Big hugs

If you stay he will continue to do this sort of thing because he can. You deserve better.

Well….. yeah. If you don’t leave someone for that what would you leave them for?

I don't know how to even confront him. This happened 3 months ago and actually believed him . Just found out he lied yesterday so just trying to find a way to bring it up.

Pack him a bag and kick his sorry arse out once and for all. You've put up with too much off this low life. Time to get your life back

Just tell him straight after DC in bed.

''H, I've found out you lied again and haven't changed at all. I've had enough and want you to leave, tonight. Our marriage is over, because I can't trust you and now I don't love you. I will be filing for divorce.''

You can word it however it comes naturally, but the basic facts are those. Stay calm, but insistent.

If he refuses, simply say ''I will no longer be doing any laundry, cooking, shopping etc for you at all as we are now separated as far as I am concerned. You will be sleeping on the sofa/in the spare room. I will be filing for divorce asap.''

Then 'grey rock' him. Regardless of what he says, any insults or accusations, just refuse to engage with him and do not show any reaction to anything he says.

OP, please get rid of this lying cheating excuse of a man. You and your children deserve so much more than this.
He doesn't care about you, or your feelings. You need to leave.

Thank you all . I told him to leave and he tried to blame me for him cheating but I'm not entertaining his rant. Thanks again for all the replies

What a slime ball. How are you feeling OP?

I'm actually okay. Things has been bad for a while but just ignored it because I didn't want to split the family but I feel at peace now