Unrealistic partner - future planning

[Lovelyivy]

So me and partner live in London. Really want kids (both in early 30s). We make only 40k a year combined (minimum wage jobs). Atm we live in share house and managed to save 15K. I’m trying to make him understand that we can’t afford london and move midlands or somewhere where we can buy. He refuses to move to another (bigger) rental. But he also refuses to move out of London (he has his entire family living in London). He keeps telling me next summer we will buy and start having children. Obviously I’m not youngest and I’m wondering if I should stay or leave. I mean does anyone here believes it’s realistic to buy in London with 40k a year? (Can be zone 5+). I find his calculations strange thinking we can find a 2bed flat for 200k. He tells me I’m pessimistic … (we just had an abortion because of lack of finances so it really weight on me - on the other hand he is brilliant partner and I love him)

Where's your 4 year old son in all this OP? Doesn't he live with you now?

@Juletide

Where's your 4 year old son in all this OP? Doesn't he live with you now?

Good shout. Quick username search....Something definitely not right.

I did not want to mention that in this feed as I felt it wasn’t relevant. Yes I do have a 4 year old. He is living with his dad atm (I see him daily)

@Lovelyivy

I did not want to mention that in this feed as I felt it wasn’t relevant. Yes I do have a 4 year old. He is living with his dad atm (I see him daily)

Then surely you moving two hours away isn't feasible anyway? And you're paying maintenance?

So it's actually really relevant

You don’t feel that how you’ll continue to see and provide for your existing child and how he might feel about you planning to move hundreds of miles away with your partner to start a brand new family was relevant??

You need to get your priorities in the right order op. Your previous posts show that you weren't 100% certain about your OH - you've only been together for a matter of months.

Clearly a huge backstory here but your DS should be your absolute priority. Not shacking up with your latest boyfriend and having more children.

What a misleading thread. I’m sorry I wasted time reading it and giving sympathy. You should prioritize your son, end of story.
Poor kid

I agree with @maskedwoman and @ComtesseDeSpair

Really. What on earth are you thinking????????

@Lovelyivy

I did not want to mention that in this feed as I felt it wasn’t relevant. Yes I do have a 4 year old. He is living with his dad atm (I see him daily)

WOW. Can't believe I wasted my time on this before... so you have an actual child already and they're 'not relevant', you're making plans to move hours away from the child with some new boyfriend because you want to have a child??? What about the child you ALREADY HAVE??? Do they have no role in your future? Why is some hyptothetical future family more important than your own child!!!

What am I reading?!! Your son is your priority. Living with/ at least bloody NEAR as possible to your son is your priority. Hypothetically planning more children is ridiculous in this scenario.

There are some new build flats planned for development in Orpington town centre (zone 6) starting at £325k with some being offered on shared ownership. Direct train to Lewisham, where I'm assuming your DS is in / near, but not great links to Heathrow area. Might be worth a look?