I've been seeing my boyfriend for nearly 2 years, met on OLD. We each have 2 kids, we live about 45 minutes from each other.
Relationship generally good and he seems keen to see me more (usually a couple of nights a week atm as we both have work or kids on other days).
He's met my dc several times, each time for a couple of hours on a Saturday, they like him but just see him as a friend of mine. I first introduced them a few months ago, he seemed to want to although neither of us actively pursued it iyswim.
It surprised me that he didn't reciprocate by suggesting I meet his kids, but I told him he should do it when he felt ready (whilst simultaneously deciding to minimise him meeting mine). At Xmas he saw my kids, gave them presents. However, still no invitation to meet his.
He's definitely divorced etc. His ex wife can be quite argumentative although she knows about me allegedly. I'm starting to feel this is a huge red flag - he's been happy to meet my kids and plan a future with me whilst never 'committing' to involve his. His dc are mid teens, so perhaps they aren't interested in me (my kids are primary age). But surely an afternoon meet up would be reasonable at this point?
I've been tolerant because I felt that if I showed commitment then he would feel confident to reciprocate, however after several months I now feel like I need to tell him no more seeing my kids until he's ready to introduce his (he doesnt see mine often, so unlikely to be an issue).
Is he being unfair?