Hi
This is my first post here and I just want to reach out. I know the answer but it’s good to hear other perspectives on things.
I have been with my partner for 6 months, we get on amazingly but there are two issues which are heavily affecting us and I can’t see a way past them.
First his best and only friend is a woman, this was not an issue until he told me that before he met me they became very close and relied on each other emotionally, she supported him through his break up from his ex. They ended up having a kiss, she has a partner of 20 years who she tells him she is unhappy with. After the kiss she told him that they can’t do that again and they remained friends, they then went away together for a couple of nights and shared a bed, he tells me nothing at all happened! , they work together, text mountains of texts every day and often late into the night. I have told him how uncomfortable I am and that for us to work the dynamics needed to change, they did for a bit but I feel have just gone back to how they were. He reassures me they are just friends!
Added to this, his ex recently took an overdose he has now become her emotional support, his ex asked to meet up over christmas with his children , I told him I would not be comfortable with this, he rang her to say they can’t meet as he is with me and it wasn’t fair, she became upset he then called her back later to check she was ok. I understand he’s worried that she may overdose again however she wants to be back with him therefore I do not think he is the right person to give her emotional support.
I’ve told him I can not do this anymore but it’s so hard as I really do want to be with him.
Sorry for such a long post