I have 4 beautiful children who I love lots I have a beautiful house and I'm upto date with all bills and I feel financially stable I have a business I'm building and it's going well so why do I still feel really unhappy. I think it's that I'm not happy in my relationship 😑
My partner is the stay at home dad which he is brilliant he does all the house work he takes the kids to nursery etc I work 3 days a week at the moment but he moans about everything makes it feel like we are walking on eggshells alot really silly things like I didn't put the coffee pot lid on straight that kind of thing. He moans at the older kids that there rooms messy alot and even if they tidy it he finds other things to moan about. I've now told him I would like to join the gym in Jan and lose weight he thinks I'm being abit selfish as I go to work that IL be at work 3 days then going to gym for n hour on my days off I said I could do the gym and then IL watch the kids while he goes and does something but he said that will be us living separate life's. I enjoy spending alot of time as a family but sometimes I just need that me time I try and get him to go out and us to go and have some us time as my mum would babusit but he always says no. He says Mt work is my break from the kids but it's work and something I'm trying to build for us all. He drinks most evenings and I'm not a drinker and it really grates on me when he drinks 8 cans of lager then doesn't get up with the kids in the morning with me which some days he doesn't. Esp weekends he drinks heavily and then lays in bed in the morning with a hangover. I feel I can't speak to him about anything as he is so grumpy and most night I find we are both sat in the same room but there is no conversation then if he's drinking he will put music videos on the TV and I'm sat on my phone but then he says your always on my phone 🙄. He can be abit aggressive sometimes if we get into an argument if he's had beer too and threatens and says horrible things but I say things back so I feel I'm just as bad in that sense. When he gets up in the morning we say hello morning etc but he's always moaning he's tired I get that he's with the kids alot and so am I when I am not at work but I feel he resents me for going out and working and also wanting abit of downtime aswell. We have always been a close nit family who spends most of our days together but I feel we also need our time and he never seem interested in doing anything is it me or am I just in the wrong relationship help it's so hard