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4 replies

Tiresome · 01/01/2022 14:56

My partner is giving me a hard time. I'm a young full time mum that moved far away from home with our kid, he works, has band stuff and frequently goes to the pub after a hard day and sometimes is not contactable. He keeps calling me lazy, that me staying home with our child is not taxing enough to deserve a few hours out, he eats dinner I've made after work but will call it inedible and that my poor parenting is why our child isn't up to his standards (3 in a week).
Is this kind of criticism normal or is my partner being unreasonably judgemental??

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LittleWins · 01/01/2022 15:07

It’s bonkers. He’s no ‘partner’. What does he bring to your life?

Funnylittlefloozie · 01/01/2022 15:13

Its not normal. How old is your child? How far away is home?

Everything you've said about him makes him sound horrible. A relationship should make you happy, and enhance your life. This doesn't sound like that is happening for you.

Georgeskitchen · 01/01/2022 16:15

No
He's a twat

SpoonfulOfSpice · 01/01/2022 16:28

This reminds me so much of my XH. He was abusive. He had unreasonably high standards (always moving the goalposts) but was also a lazy slob and believed it was my responsibility to do everything for him and our DC. My only regret in leaving him was staying so long and giving him my best years.

OP, please look up signs of abuse, particularly Lundy Bancroft types of abuser and read the traits of ‘king of the castle’ type and see if it rings any bells.

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