How can i make friends this year?

[malificent7]

And keep them?
I started a course in 2018....at the end O realised that any friends that i did make have drifted and are not interested...they have buddied up with other people on tbe course.
I think i am on the spectrum . How can i move on and find new friends? I feel sad that i couldn't even make friends at uni!

I don't know much about being on the spectrum I'm afraid but I know that there are lots of people who do feel like this. I'm not sure if you're looking for work now or if you've got a job. You'll meet people in your work or further studies so try to be open to conversations and any socialising whenever opportunities arise. Have you got any old friends from college? Maybe message anyone who you think might still be local to you. I honestly believe we all have crap days and we all feel alone at times. Stay open to new friendships at work or any clubs, don't keep in the company of any people who will bring you down and hang in there.

I'm adding this link from what I've just found- not sure if it's got anything new for you

www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/family-life-and-relationships/making-friends/autistic-adults
Best wishes :)

@malificent7 hey there, don't feel disheartened- lots of people don't gel with uni mates or struggle to make friends in adulthood, particularly in smaller cities where friendships tend to get established in primary/secondary school and its hard to get a look in if you're an "outsider" so to speak.

I've moved around quite a bit so I've had to become quite adept at making friends quickly. From experience I would say carrying yourself with confidence, being genuinely curious about others and what they have to say and putting yourself out there (I.e. joining gym classes, drama classes, running groups, whatever tickles your pickle) is the best way to attract/befriend people. I've found lots of times people are feeling awkward or shy and they appreciate someone approaching them or taking an interest in them. I'd also recommend meetup or Bumble bff, they're both great ways to meet likeminded people! Re
your suspected autism, there are lots and lots of people on the spectrum who have good and varied friendships and present as quite confident - you're not alone by any means! All the best of luck to you and happy new year x

Have you tried making friends through a shared interest? Walking, book groups, a language? Www.meetup.com is a great way to access different interest groups near you and is an easy start as lots of people join them for the same reason…