Happy New Year, Mumsneters! I am hoping to please get some perspectives on the following divorce / separation-related question.
A lot of experts say that you shouldn't introduce a new partner to your kids until the relationship is sufficiently serious. Fair enough. But what do you do in the meantime, in terms of the level of candour with your kids (and former partner) in relation to what you're doing, if you're seeing anyone, etc?
This question came up in a conversation with a friend who separated last year. This friend has a DS in his early teens; they are in daily text and mobile contact, in addition to seeing one another regularly. Often, his DS will ask him where he is and what he's doing. What is the best way of answering these questions if you're out socialising, or staying at a friend's house, or on a date?
My friend does not want to upset or confuse his DS, or provide titbits of information that only raise more questions - and he certainly does not want to say anything to his DS that he wouldn't say to his wife, or ask his DS to keep secrets from her.
It sounds like the DS is having difficulties accepting the separation, which makes my friend even more concerned about how to approach these matters.
I expect a lot of others have gone through this, and would appreciate any thoughts.