I need help

[ainny1]

I honestly dont know what to do where to start from, dp was screaming in my face pushing me around while i was holding my ds. He even made me punch my self forcing my hand towards my face.
We have a house were both 50 owners of the house hes always tellling me to get out of the house and that his not going to pay bills anymore and i should go back where i came from
My son was traumatised he wouldnt go anywhere next to him and was crying his eyes out so i packed a bag and left the house i jumped into my car and had a good cry forgeting my son was in the car and when i looked back at him he was staring at me with a sad face
I dont know what to do how do i leave this relationship
I need to get out for my sons sake
My dp lost his dad in august and his been like this since I understand its hard but am not a punching bag for him to punch me around am so tired

Oh, ainny1, that sounds awful. You know you can't go on like this, but at least you have now made the decision that you and your son deserve better. There is help out there. I'm not an expert in this, and I would suggest asking Mumsnet to move this to the Relationships board where there are many wise and experienced women. Tap on the three dots under your post and report it. Also Google Women's Aid, I did a quick search and noticed one of the headings actually had the title 'I need help.'

Hiya xx
I think it's time to ring for a DV advisor..
Google the local number...
Have you got anywhere to go tonight?
Do you have money to go to a Travelodge for the night?
Nice hot bath, takeaway, baby sleeping beside you while you watch tv?
If you have to go home, avoid avoid avoid.
Keep your phone close by.
If he's the type to get drunk and come find you to start, get to bathroom, lock door and ring 999.
Give location quickly in case he pushes door in.
Let us know your plan xxx
You're not alone, I'm an ex DV advisor xx

Hope you are somewhere safe now @ainny1

Good God. Stay away! I hope you're somewhere safe right now!

OP, have you contacted Women's Aid? They can offer help, advice and support:

www.womensaid.org.uk/

hope you and your son are okay.

We're so sorry to hear you're going through this, OP.

We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged to us we like to link to our web-guides, which we hope may be helpful. If you'd like to, please do feel free to take a look at our Domestic Violence page.

Very best wishes from all at MNHQ

Hi thank you to u all for ur reply on this post i have been trying to contact womens aid but the chat is always busy ive left them a email to get in contact with me.
Ivee been at my mums the last few days just trying to spend some time with my son, hes traumatised and crys in his sleep. Am just so tired physically and emotionally he keeps messaging me saying hes changed the locks and i cant come back but if its 50/50 ownership of the house i am entitled to go back there with my son right? I dont see why me and my son have to move out and not him

Speak to a solicitor about forcing a sale of the property. Half of the money is yours so you are entitled to it. But you would be best to start over somewhere new.

I'd also look into having full custody of your son if possible. And it might be wise to have him see q child councilor as trauma like this at a young age can cause all number of personality and mental disorders to develop.

Well done in getting out. Never go back.

This is desperately sad. I feel for you and hope someone with more practical support than I can give comes along.

I hope all becomes well for you and your DS.