my absolute dick of a DH has left , I'm overwhelmed with just about everything

[cantseeforlooking]

As the title says really ,

I am glad he is gone , I am looking forward to a peaceful life ,it's what I've been dreaming about

But I'm so overwhelmed with it all , I can see the life I had and I don't want it , I can see the life I'm going to have but I can't see how I can get from there to there without cracking up .

I've spent all day crying ,

I know this will get better but i feel like im grieving , not for him but for the life I thought I should have . Im also (which I know is ridiculous) really feeling the need to know why he has done what he has done , there is no answer to that as he doesn't think he's done much wrong , it just feels unfair .

Tell me to a grip will ya ?

Just to say, because I don't think anyone else has: give yourself a bit of time to grieve if you need to. In some ways it is like a bereavement - you're mourning the man you thought he was and the life you thought you were going to have.

Also, practical tip: get some post-its and stick 'em on the stuff you want to keep. Much simpler than making lists. Ex and I did it with two different colours then just had to haggle over anything that had both.

I’m in the same place @cantseeforlooking it is a very strange and disconcerting time. As others have said take it one step at a time, I completely understand the feeling of all your emotions and ideas fighting each other it is exhausting. Take all the time you need and take good care of yourself