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I just don't know what is wrong

34 replies

Lonely43 · 30/12/2021 17:59

My DP is ignoring me. I don't know why and I don't know if it is something I have said or done or if it's something else. Things were good and it's like a different person woke up the next day. I'm questioning myself and what I may have done to upset him but I can't come up with anything. I'm so upset. I have two children with him and all is good with them but it seems to be me that is the problem. I try so hard to make him happy and we had a fun and happy Christmas but something isn't right now
We live away from family so I can't escape to visit anyone and get some space

OP posts:
Northerngirl43 · 30/12/2021 20:04

@thickthighs73 I totally understand what you are saying. I never really take time for myself
I look after the children and everyone else first
Need 2 do something for me

teddysmummyx · 30/12/2021 20:11

Sending you a big hug. Sometimes you need to just put yourself first and look at the bigger picture, if he is not willing to speak what is on his mind like an adult and just wants to punish you and sulk, does he deserve the effort you put in to make him happy?

I am not in anyway going to start telling you to leave, because in the real world, it is not that simple and I am a firm believer that if things are meant to be there is always a way to iron out the creases. Within reason of course, no not just lie back and take this behaviour. Issues like this need to be approached head on, do not give him the chance to back out of talking, confront him about it and really lay down your emotions. Best of luck x

Northerngirl43 · 30/12/2021 22:31

@teddysmummyx thank you. You're right about leaving. It's not as easy as that. I sometimes wish I was a stronger person and didn't let things get to me as much

Northerngirl43 · 31/12/2021 14:26

Just a little update. Nothing different today
I have tried to ignore it but easier said than done

skellingtonboot · 31/12/2021 14:42

@Northerngirl43

You've had a NC fail.
Anyone clicking "see all" on your first post is not going to see any updates. Your subsequent posts are not highlighted either.

Sorry that nothing has improved for you.

Sundancerintherain · 31/12/2021 14:56

You say that you have a gut feeling that he is interested in or already seeing someone else.
Please read up on The Script and see if it rings any bells for you Flowers

Northerngirl43 · 31/12/2021 15:33

@Sundancerintherain where do I find that

Northerngirl43 · 31/12/2021 16:46

@Sundancerintherain thank you 😊

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