Partner took early - very early - retirement. I'm not old enough for that, have a very busy job that's not 9-5 and go to the gym most evenings. We don't live together. Things have drifted because he hasn't the money for anything. I've paid for everything, holidays, meals, transport. He makes no suggestions or arrangements. Not even a walk and a drink. As a result I've been focusing on my friends and myself for social life.
Challenged this and he says he's paid for so much over the years he's been working that he doesn't feel guilty about it. I feel used and furious. I also feel emotionally distant and foolish. He goes on about us not having sex but I don't want to have sex with someone like this.
Have tried to address it but nothing changes. We went out last night and he was cross because he said there was nothing he likes on the menu. I get the brunt of this. eventually he chose something but I'm sick of it all now.
Am I unreasonable or what?