Thoughts and advice please

[kathleen567]

Hi

I’ve been in a relationship now with my partner for 6 years. We’ve bought a house together and have a dog. We met at university and continued working in the same city after graduating. Up until that point he’d never lived in a different city to his parents but last year we moved to be closer to my parents when my mum was diagnosed with cancer so that I could spend more time with her.

This was a joint decision to move at the time but more recently I’ve felt he resents me because he no longer lives near his parents and I’m regularly blamed because he feels like he doesn’t get to see his parents enough.

I feel awful about this but at the same time I’ve never said they can’t visit and equally he does see them once/twice a month.

Another thing that’s really bothering me is when I come home from work he is pretty much glued to his phone and very often I feel quite alone and that like I don’t have anyone to talk to. I’ve tried to talk to him about it but not much seems to have changed.

Is this all falling apart?

Ask him if he wants to buy in-between your parents, his parents and wherever you work.
If he doesn't want to do this, then that means he wants out of the relationship.
Be prepared to move though if he does.

Is this all falling apart?

Yes, and I beg of you to accept this than move on. Don't waste another day. You've seen his true colours, and your relationship has run its course. He is not the man you need and deserve. It's over. Allow it to be over before you even more time is squandered on him.

It sounds like he resents you. I think you need to talk.

Your mum needs you at a crucial time. Can't your husband see this also, and show more compassion?
You must feel like throwing the phone down the lav with all you have going on.
Ask him if he's willing to do a no phone evening, do you can bond and get close.
Hope all goes well with your mum xx

Sorry about your mum, that's a difficult thing to deal with.

I had a long term relationship that spilled over after university, I let it run on far too long. We both changed a lot as we started our careers and our different priorities became apparent.

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It sounds like he is checking out. You can only talk to him, explain you feel you are growing apart and you don't want a partner in life who spends every evening on their phone. If he denies there is any problem or has no inclination to change/improve things, then it is probably not a relationship that will last.

Yes, end it now.