Confused by MIL

[lonelyexpat]

I have been married to DH for nearly 18 years, we have been together for 21 years. We have 3 DC together. I have always got along with MIL, we have never been super close but never had any problems (that I'm aware of).

She has always been very generous with how much she spends on gifts, much more than my family. She used to always spend more on DH than on me, but that never really bothered me. It confused me, as my parents treat DH and I the same.

The thing is, she now no longer buys for me at all and I'm wondering if this is indicative of something bigger. Something has obviously changed but I can't pinpoint what!

DH brushes it off to avoid any kind of conflict.

Well you won't ever know unless you ask, just say I have been wondering for some time have I done something to offend you. X

@lisaandalan

Yes, you're right. Maybe one day, when I'm feeling super secure and confident, I'll ask.

Same here OP. DHs family buy for just him and our DC even though our gifts to them are from DH and I. It does hurt and tbh it really made me feel like they didn’t think of me as family. So I am low contact with them and only see them infrequently.