Does anyone else have a boring partner

[Boredmum2]

Yesterday we got invited round to his cousins house because it was his birthday. He didn’t want to go so we didn’t. On New Year’s Eve it’s his step mums surprise birthday party. Are we going? Nope because he “can’t be bothered” We’re going to be the only ones in the family who aren’t going. He never wants to do anything or go anywhere. It’s so miserable. Yet he’s up for going out and doing things with his friends. Yesterday for example he went to the pub for a few hours with his friends. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve told him I’d like us to do more things together and for us to go out more. It just goes in one ear and out the other😴

Does he refuse to do anything or just family things? Does he like his family? Do you like them or just feel you want to go out of a sense of duty? Do you do things independently of him ever? Ultimately you’re responsible for your own social life but if you’re not happy with the amount/lack of things you do together you don’t need to stay in the relationship if it isn’t meeting your needs. I just dumped someone because he left a boot print on my rug and never wanted to have interesting conversations. Do what makes you happy!

[quote Boredmum2]@CoverYourselfInChocolateGlory
@TabithaTittlemouse He’d look at me like I’ve got 2 heads if I suggested that[/quote]
Only the first time. And even if he does, why does that matter? Go out and enjoy yourself.

No. Of course I don't have a partner I find boring. Slightly silly question tbh. Partners aren't mandatory. You don't have to have one.

I have had, yes. In the past.

[quote Boredmum2]@CoverYourselfInChocolateGlory
@TabithaTittlemouse He’d look at me like I’ve got 2 heads if I suggested that[/quote]
With all due respect, why not go anyway

yes - he only liked to shop. in groups of people/friends he would just sit there and not interact. he never got excited about or was moved by anything (except sex and seeing his dd). he had no local friends so never did anything except with me and his dc's

however in your case OP it just seems like he doesn't enjoy spending time doing anything with you since he enjoys going out with his friends.

Why should he spoil your fun. Just go without him. He has plenty of occasions where he goes without you by the sounds of it. He's not the boss of you OP.

Why do you go out together if you don't want to go out together?