Hey guys, just going to give you some background on the situation so please bear with me.
Cut a long story short, I am a single mother of a 15 month old I’m 26 and tbh I think I’ve adjusted to parenthood with no problems so far I am so grateful. I recently got a restraining order out on my daughters dad because of the abuse I had been going through over the past three years but I am now free of that and very much happy with my life and excited of what the future holds.. (also I’m extremely spiritual and since my situation I’ve definitely turned to spirituality more).
During my horrific relationship with narcissistic ex I came across a few mistresses (as you do LOL) one of them being a girl a few years older than myself. We had a few mutual friends, we spoke on several occasions and she had only been messing about with my ex for a few weeks before I found out (this was before I fell pregnant and once again during my pregnancy). I’ll be honest after my break up this year I found it very hard to come to terms with things so I did used to occasionally look at her page now and again but this was at the start. I feel like it’s normal to do those things but there is definitely a limit and if you find yourself doing it over a long period of time there is definitely a problem! Fast forward to this year summer they have both been completely out of sight out of mind (they haven’t spoken since two years ago) .. I do remember when speaking to the girl her saying that she felt we looked very similar and had a lot of similarities which I feel was true to an extent but I felt that she used to overdo it like we were twins or something. Which I thought was weird. I also now feel like her reason for copying me is nothing to do with my ex as that was so long ago now.
Anyways I went through my whole healing journey and spiritual awakening a few months back. I’m like a different person now. that bad situation has changed me for the better and I see life completely differently (in a good way) and if you knew me then you can see the growth is just evident. A lot of people come to me and tell me they’re inspired by me and that they’ve noticed my progress which really makes me feel good as it hasn’t been easy at all. anyways one of our mutual friends on social media started noticing that the girl would copy my posts as soon as I uploaded them or a day or so after. Guys! when I say copy that’s not me being up my own arse thinking I’m original. I mean blatant copying from outfits, hairstyles, poses, interior decor my spirituality aesthetic. EVERYTHING. I wish I could upload pictures to show you guys the blatant copying in comparison it’s damn right SCARY!!! She is also a model/video vixen Who has nearly 80,000 followers and I don’t even have 800. Not that it matters but to me it also seems like she’s trying to steal my flair and put it to her audience as I’m not in the limelight.
Anyways I’m at a point right now where I really want to address her especially because we’re going into the New Year.. I really just want her to stop But I don’t want to come across as forceful. everybody says imitation is a sign of flattery but it gets to a point where it feels like my identity is being stolen.. I just wanted advice on my next move because I’m such a genuine person I really just wanted to approach her and kind of let her know I’ve noticed what’s going on and help her be herself and if she ever wants to come to me with advice that I would be open to help her..
to be honest I would just like to message this to her but do you think that that’s weird? I know I should ignore it but it’s so blatant I feel like I don’t even want to upload content because it’s giving her a new idea and I haven’t addressed it yet.. should I just be open and honest with her whilst being kind or just put my big girl knickers on and deal with it but it is really annoying considering the circumstances of the situation.
Any input would be appreciated thanks guys! xxx