So I met a man just over a month ago. We have been messaging back and forth since. He has told me he likes me and asked me out on a date. We had one planned for after Christmas as I've been busy in the run up, but as I met him and his friends on a night out with my friends, we've met up as groups several times and sort of merged friends over Christmas as we live local. We haven't slept together but we have kissed etc.
We met up on Boxing Day and his mate mentioned a girlfriend in passing when he was walking up ahead. So I asked him. He said he didn't have a girlfriend and finally admitted he is 'seeing someone' but since he met me he likes me and wants to see what happens. I said I didn't want to speak to him and he left the pub in a strop. His mates then revealed he had told them that I knew all along about this girl, and had down played us messaging to me messaging him about meeting up with his friends and nothing else. I sent him a text saying what they had said and that I felt sorry for this girlfriend. He's never replied to this.
Now don't get me wrong. I'm aware that we aren't a 'thing' and that unless you're exclusive people can do as they wish. And if I knew he was just messaging or going on dates with someone I would probably have to put my big girl pants on. But the fact his mates refer to her as a girlfriend, and he had to pretend to them that we weren't anything, im going to assume that this isn't someone he's just gone out with a few times?
Im now just overthinking and analysing. A male friend said that if it isn't an official girlfriend then maybe he really did mean that he liked me and would've ended it once we'd been on dates etc and that perhaps I should give him a chance.
But I just feel it's all VERY shady. He had told me that his mate liked me and so to keep us on the 'down low' from him. But clearly this was the reason. It feels a little bit calculated to be honest and the fact he's not even tried to defend himself once he's sobered up would suggest to me that he doesn't have one. Although I didn't particularly welcome any defence.
Anyway have I been too hasty or am I right? I'm really just venting to be honest. I was quite laid back about the situation so I didn't expect to feel quite so crappy about this boy but I feel like a bit of a fool 