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Why are holidays so lonnnng and crap?

6 replies

Singlebells · 28/12/2021 16:58

Does anyone else struggle hugely at this time? Fed the f up with DH who is a useless manchild. Thinks he helps out by watching his OWN DC on occasion while also being glued to his phone, but hasn’t lifted a finger all holidays. DC are under 6 and need constant attention and to play all the time. I would like to sit and play with them all day but reality is laundry, cooking, cleaning, house so there’s never time. It’s always worse over the holidays as really see DH for the useless dick he is although this year lot lot worse as have hit a point where I can’t even look at him without wanting to throw something squarely at his head. He is always right there as well like another shadow just lurking. Even his breathing makes me want to scream. Christmas is so f ing suffocating. This level of hatred isn’t normal I know but guess would like a handhold it’s not just me and this is a shitty time of year when your marriage already is crap. Find myself staring at the door debating walking out of it and never coming back

OP posts:
Smartiepants79 · 28/12/2021 17:02

I sure a lot of people are feeling the same way but I expect you already know that the holidays is not your problem, your utterly useless husband is.

Shoxfordian · 28/12/2021 17:03

Sounds like you should walk out that door and it’s overdue op

IsThePopeCatholic · 28/12/2021 17:10

Your dh needs a rocket up his backside - or you need to leave. Holidays should not be this stressful. He sounds like a complete waste of time.

RedCandyApple · 28/12/2021 17:15

So leave then?

TeacherMa · 28/12/2021 17:21

I love the holidays! They should not be stressful at all. You are quite rightly resentful because you are behaving like the only adult with parental responsibilities in a house where two adults reside.

You're not happy. Nothing will change if you continue like this, but you'll become more weary and bitter. if you want next year to be different, tell him in no uncertain terms a) how you feel and what he needs to do differently and b) what will happen if he doesn't change (will you leave?).

If you don't offer an ultimatum, this will be your life forever more.

Shebangshebong · 28/12/2021 18:18

The holidays are amazing. Your 'D'H sounds like a waste of oxygen.

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