My boyfriends worked hard all his life and earned fantastic money. The problem is he never saved and spoilt his last girlfriend and ended up depressed after they split. He drank himself into a mess and eventually got help and got himself sorted. We met 18 months ago and took our time with things. We liked one another instantly but we chose to have feelings but not go there until 6 months ago. We felt at that point we had been talking ages and wanted to be together.
Its just it doesn't really feel that together. He talks about the future. He mentions stuff for us to do and his end goal is us to build up and live together and stay together. He's open about feelings. Expresses emotions and wants to spend his spare time with me. But....
1 month after we got serious his back operation seems to have failed again. He has agonising back pain and shooting pains down his leg. He has gone from earning 4 grand a month to living on universal credits whilst awaiting a scan. He can no longer run a car. He is skint. He is in pain and struggling. But he's still the lovely person I met and its not about money for me. I've helped him put financially. He pays it back with each pay day. There's money I've let him off for now for food shopping and we've agreed he can pay it back when he goes back to work. I trust he will do that. But we haven't really been able to act like a normal couple. My money is being stretched to travel 3 miles to him (I often try walk) and sit at his. He Cooks for me. We walk his dog. We watch tele. We have sex around his pain and we have a lovely bond. But it's been 4 months and we've not been anywhere or done anything. I've started to think about his Facebook account lately too and he uses it daily. He's never once expressed anything on there aimed at us being a couple. Friends who see us out walking etc all know. He calls me his girlfriend to his family. But I feel abit of a secret all of a sudden. I have made myself really paranoid that he's using me for money and acting and what if he chucks me when he's back at work? I can't work out where these feelings have come from. Because of his pain we can't walk far to get to nicer walks etc. But he has no car either or money to go anywhere. He occasionally worries ill get bored of him.
I don't know how much longer to wait. I feel like he is just not showing me enough at this point