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First Christmas without him and I miss him

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Californiansunsets · 27/12/2021 20:42

First Christmas without my ex and I miss him so much. I’ve posted before about how we split (he cheated), and I’ve really really struggled since Christmas Eve. At times, I’ve been in a terrible state hiding away from the kids trying to keep it all together.

He is with OW, I keep thinking of him wishing her merry Christmas, buying her gifts. I know I shouldn’t but I do.
I keep saying to myself, he didn’t get to see our kids open up their presents (they are teenagers & an adult). Youngest 2 don’t want any contact with him.

I wouldn’t go back with him, but I miss him so much and even now as I’m writing this, the tears are streaming. I just can’t believe he would give up 31 years of marriage. Why did he do that to us.

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Fairycake2 · 27/12/2021 23:29

Sorry to hear you're feeling so sad OP.

The first one is always the hardest but it does get a bit easier. Try and make some plans, keep busy, see friends and concentrate on making new memories and traditions without him.

Remind yourself why you split and write a list of all the reasons you're better off without him. Try not to think about him and OW - when you do say 'stop' to yourself and purposely think of something else.

Hope you feel a bit better tomorrow

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