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Housemate and pregnancy

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snowyflake · 27/12/2021 20:24

So I have been living in a shared house for a few months ago and ever since I moved it I started sleeping with my housemate.

It first happened after a night out the first time and we both agreed it was a mistake and it was better to not do it again. However we keep sleeping together for whatever reason. I know it's a dumb thing but sometimes we don't have condoms and he just pulls out which seemed to be working fine.

However my period was late for about a week which is very rare for me so I took a pregnancy test just to give myself some ease of mind and it came back positive. I haven't told him about it as I found out just today, I am so terrified of his reaction and what he'll say about it. I'm pretty sure he'll mention abortion but I don't know if I could do that but also keeping it would make everything a mess.

It's even more difficult as I'm not even from the UK, I came here on an internal transfer for a company I work for that has an office here. I'm only meant to be here for a year and then return to my home country. If I were to keep it I don't even know how custody would work (if he chose to be involved) or if I could even take the child out of the country? I also can't figure out how to even tell him? I definitely can't hide it from him as we live together and I'll have to make a decision about it all very soon

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NynaeveSedai · 27/12/2021 20:26

Wow
Some bad decisions made here but you are where you are. Firstly if you want to go back to your home country and have the baby there leave before the baby is born. He can't make you have an abortion if you don't want one. He can stop you from leaving though if you have the baby here.

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