NC for this. I'm questioning a lot of things recently about my reactions to relationships and what's "normal" and what isn't. Some details changed for anonymity
My dad is very much.. Stockholm syndrome is the only way I can put it when it comes to my mum
Things that have happened that I suspect aren't normal but were at the time. Disclaimer that I wasn't an awful teenager! I smoked but no drugs, good at school, no awful boyfriends etc
Slapping me around the head because I went missing (was out playing for too long) when I was about 7, so hard I saw stars
Making me crawl with a newly plastered leg because she wanted a coffee. I managed to make the coffee but couldn't carry it and use crutches so I had to crawl and carry it as she wouldn't come and get it. She won't do anything - cook, clean, get a drink, move to get the remote, nothing
Ignoring me. I would get up and say morning and she would look at me like I was shit and put her head back in the newspaper and refuse to speak to me all day. I used to worry all day what I had done and it would usually turn out it wasn't even related to me or something minor from 2 months ago. She's currently doing this with my dad and he says it's because of a medical condition that she has only had for the past 3 years
I got pregnant when I was 30, and not in a relationship. They owned my house (small terraced), and said they would sell it and I needed to find a council house, they wouldn't support me, I needed to get an abortion as no man would want someone else's child. I desperately wanted the baby, but there was no other way out I could find. I had a termination and it broke me completely, ended up having 9 months of counselling for what they said was a form of PTSD and trauma reaction. When I say broken, I was sat on the ground in a car park howling and couldn't figure out how to actually stand up and carry on living. I regret it every single day and now I'm too old for children
Blackmail. Yes they've supported me but it's all with conditions. If I ever try not to do something then they're threatened to stop supporting me, or it's "think of everything we do/have done for you"
I'm now not supported by them at all and have untangled myself massively but my life has been affected by this so much to the point where if my manager is quiet, I panic I have done something wrong. Just venting I guess 