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Is he playing me?

7 replies

Ihaveabirdsnest · 26/12/2021 20:41

Just looking for some perspective here becuase I'm quite confused...
I was in touch with a guy I met on a dating site for a month finally met twice then kind of ended it because I was going overseas and we were both unsure if we wanted to be in a relationship. He called several weeks later just before I came back said he wanted to meet, we met and I didn't hear from him after so I assumed he wasn't interested in seeing me again...so I went on a couple of dates with other guys... a week and a half after we met he called and I told him "I'm sorry I thought you weren't interested so I moved on". He got quite upset...said something along the lines of "you can't wait a few days without meeting other men"
I'm quite torn not sure if I should ask him if he'd meet me again. We had a lot of chemistry and I enjoyed being with him more than the other guys I dated but is he playing me? Is it normal for someone to call a week and a half after a date?
All the othe guys I dated messaged me that same night after meeting or called the next day

OP posts:
sheroku · 26/12/2021 20:50

"you can't wait a few days without meeting other men"

That sentence doesn't sit right with me. Especially coming from someone you've only met a few times. Why does he expect you to wait around for him to message you? If I went on a date and it went well I'd message them straight away after. If they didn't reply after a few days then I'd assume they weren't interested and move on.

WatieKatie · 27/12/2021 00:32

Red flag. Move on.

Momijin · 27/12/2021 02:04

Nah. You've every right to date who you want. If he wanted to see you again, he should have made plans. He doesn't sound good op. Even if he was a bit miffed, he shouldn't have said that.

lothermand · 27/12/2021 02:51

I second @sheroku highlighted sentence...serious red flag there..controlling tendencies methinks..

BourbonScreams · 27/12/2021 02:55

Nope massive red flag, if he's jealous like that with someone he's not even dating anymore imagine what being in a relationship with him would be like! Hope you find someone much nicer soon Smile

RantyAunty · 27/12/2021 03:14

No, he doesn't need another chance.

He should have stepped it up, if he was interested.

I'd text him, When you snooze your lose. Bye!

Didimum · 27/12/2021 09:56

Whether you were going to meet up for another date or not, you’re still entitled to date other people. And no, a week and half is not a reasonable time have the next contact - but then again, you didn’t contact him either.

Regardless, his response is nasty AF. Move on.

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