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Walking on eggshells!

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PG01 · 26/12/2021 18:59

Hubby is great most of the time, but every now and again he flies of the handle for no reason, and usually I get the blame for whatever is the cause. He has argued with my family members before, so I am always nervous when family are around in case it triggers him, especially my youngest son (his step son). My previous marriage was to someone that never argued (still my friend) so I am not used to big arguments. He is not violent or anything like that, I just feel that we are having a great day then all of a sudden he loses his rag. He has COVID at the moment, so we haven’t had any visitors for Christmas, my elderly mother doesn’t want to come over whilst he is positive (understandably) and he has just flown off the handle saying that he is being treated like a leper and has stormed off upstairs; another day ruined! I am not scared of him or anything like that, I am just fed up tiptoeing around so he doesn’t loose his rag!

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AryaStarkWolf · 26/12/2021 19:20

He thinks your elderly mother should call while he has Covid? What kind of a moron is he? Also, why is he downstairs at all, shouldn't he be isolating?

Eightandahalfyears · 26/12/2021 19:24

Er you are nervous around him whilst your son is around? You should put your son first and get rid of DP!

PG01 · 26/12/2021 19:44

Not so much about her visiting, but more that he has to stay upstairs or wear his mask! He has been isolating all week but I allowed him down today, but apparently asking him to keep his mask on and not to handle food in the kitchen is treating him like a leper! My son is 19, and away at university but they have always had a difficult relationship, with me feeling like I am in the middle of them both (and yes my son will always come first). It's my 2nd marriage and whilst we do have amazing times, I am not sure I can take any more of the strops

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Fairycake2 · 26/12/2021 23:14

^^He has been isolating all week but I allowed him down today, but apparently asking him to keep his mask on and not to handle food in the kitchen is treating him like a leper!

He sounds completely unreasonable and very selfish

Dery · 26/12/2021 23:17

“My son is 19, and away at university but they have always had a difficult relationship, with me feeling like I am in the middle of them both (and yes my son will always come first).”

OP - if your son always came first, you wouldn’t be married to someone he doesn’t get on with. Your husband sounds very difficult and like you’d be better off without him, to be honest.

thistimelastweek · 26/12/2021 23:42

You may not fear violence but you are afraid of his moods. He has trained you so.

Don't kid yourself. You are living in fear.

Is that what you really want?

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