How long from separation to divorce?

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Just that really. Have today agreed to separate.
I am wondering how long after you separate do you get a divorce, even though I have Instigated the split, I can’t actually bare the thought of getting a divorce. It seems so final, I’m sure it will get easier but is there a timeline for these things?

No set timeline OP, but it may help you to get some practical advice from a solicitor as to what the process is. Then you can decide when you want to kick things off and feel ready to. In my experience it was 4 months from ending the relationship until I met with my lawyer, and then I decided to go ahead and instruct her about 2 weeks later. My marriage was abusive though and the split very traumatic with police involvement, so I wasn't totally ready to move forward until my children and I were safe and settled.

It's hard regardless of the situation though, so be kind on yourself. But practical advice can help you take the next step.

I am 2.5 years seperated now (legally seperated, house now in my name etc), but still to officially divorce. Really need to do that actually

We did very quickly

And I honestly think it contributes to how well my ex and I now get on 5 years later

Separated July 2016, filed November 2016, divorce finalised October 2017.

If there's no rush to file with a reason, just wait two years.

If you can’t bare to get a divorce
On the very day you separate
I’m wondering whether you are perhaps thinking about divorce rather prematurely

I filed for divorce a month later as I wanted it done but there's no time limit. You can stay married for as long as you wish. However, I'd suggest you get some advice sooner rather than later and legally separate especially if money, property and pensions are involved. Things can turn nasty very easily even when you think they won't