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Looking for advice relating to other family members and low contact

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ItIsMeReally · 26/12/2021 12:47

Name-changed regular here, looking for advice and not sure if this is the right topic to start in.

Married 20 years, early relationship with in-laws wasn't great, I thought my DH was their precious first born and I didn't live up, soon discovered that wasn't true at all and not liking me was just another way of criticising him.

It looked to me like DH's younger brother was the Chosen One, but this summer he's opened up to DH that his partner has gone NC with her own mum and with DH's / her partner's mum, he's gone LC and is in therapy about various things including parental relationships / reviewing his childhood by the sound of things.

They live in the same town and we are the opposite end of the country, but MIL is with us for Christmas here so she isn't alone on Christmas Day. That involved us doing all the driving to get her and take her home, as well as all the usual Christmas preparations. We are also parents and I have family too.

Just wondering if anyone can advise what trajectory this might be on? Does LC become NC, does that just happen or should I be aware that there might be an almighty argument coming? At the moment it feel rather like walking a tightrope! Thanks for reading this far.

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Anordinarymum · 26/12/2021 12:50

"Married 20 years, early relationship with in-laws wasn't great, I thought my DH was their precious first born and I didn't live up, soon discovered that wasn't true at all and not liking me was just another way of criticising him."

I just wanted to comment on the last sentence and say to you that you nailed exactly why my partners daughter is horrible to me. I expect this sort of behaviour is more common that people realise

ItIsMeReally · 27/12/2021 15:37

Can anyone who has someone go LC offer any guidance on how the rest of the family works around it?

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