I see so many threads about people who are divorcing or have found out their partner/husband is having an affair and going through a tough time. I've contributed sometimes as I've been through it. People say it gets easier which in some ways it does but there are times, even several years on when it's still hard and Christmas can be one of those. It's been nine years for me since I separated from my ExH (8 since divorce and 11 since his affair started). My children are young adults living mostly away from home but I had Christmas day with them. But then they need to go and spend a day or so with their father too (and his OH) and it always makes me so sad. And it always makes me sad that they have to split themselves between us and a life of family Christmases as I imagined them (and as I had myself) will never be the same. I know I shouldn't complain really as I've moved on and we have our health and no one had Covid and other people are going through so much more but those feelings are always there (and I admit I cried a little on Christmas day). Lots of strength to all of those of you going through hard times. Yes it does get easier but it's still hard sometimes.