Posting out of concern for myself mainly but I'm really struggling with a friend at the moment and just want to get a different perspective.
In a nutshell, at the beginning of the year her mum died. Before this we weren't very close but I offered her a shoulder to cry on and said I was happy to listen and this was when we started becoming closer. At the time, it felt okay - we would chat a couple of times a week and go for coffees. Nothing too intense. Over the past couple of months, it feels like it's got harder. I recently had Covid and was quite unwell. She called me every day to make sure I was all right but then would want to talk for an hour. She's always asking me when I'm free as well. Whatever I'm doing she's asking if she can join me. Last week she turned up on my doorstep twice with a Christmas card and then chocolates.
I know I'm a very independent person and have never felt the need for a friendship where you're basically living in each other's pockets, so want to know if her behaviour is excessive because I feel I'm not in a position to judge.