What should that entail?
DH is on holiday to visit family over Christmas. He'll be gone for a few weeks. I asked him to stay for longer as he has anxiety (presents as physical symptoms) and it is really affecting our family. I thought the break would do him good. Not working, relaxing and no responsibility, would mean he'd get a chance to recharge and feel better. He refuses therapy/any treatment apart from pills.
He doesn't spend time with the dc. Doesn't seem to enjoy spending time with me.
After a long talk where i tried to have an open and honest conversation about why i was unhappy he stayed silent. The next day after prompting him he admitted I was right about everything I had mentioned. he had no argument against anything I'd said. I explained what I needed and wanted from him, the expectations I had. Still, nothing changed.
Now he's had these MH issues for just under two years so I'm trying to be supportive. "In sickness and in health" but really it's taking a toll as we don't really have a relationship. Barely any affection etc. Before he left I suggested we go nearly nc. By that I mean just a standard "how are you?" type of thing. Tbh I was hoping the saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" would have an impact. In the past when we've spent time apart when he visits family, he has been very affectionate and its like the honeymoon period when he comes back. He was adamant he didn't want to go nc as there was no need but I am at my wits end. We spoke for a while but I've noticed he's not trying to work on his issues at all and it's pissing me off. Since last week I've not initiated contact. Twice he has messaged to say "how are you and the kids?" And ill reply "ok. How are you?" Then he'll describe his health issues in brief. That's it.
I don't mean to play games and never have done. I truly don't know what to do to mend my family and marriage. I needed this break just as much as he did because its so draining. However I'm still awake at night worrying about it all so what's the point?
Opinions, advice?