Please can I ask people, what is your experience of domestic abuse and getting an injunction or non molestation order (are they even one in the same?).
I sought help of a divorce lawyer becusse my H wasn't to divorce me, who guided me to a domestic violence website and a therapist who specialises in this sort of thing.
I had my first session with the therapist today and boy, oh boy, I am starting to see things differently. I always thought an injunction can only been obtained through being physically pinned up against the wall or actually hit, or military style nose-to-nose bellowing with throbbing arteries and red face, but apparently that's how it used to be. And now, since the law changed in relation to coercive control, it can be obtained for that.
I have a list of examples of lots of little events that this therapist tells me I rationalise away, which she feels is a coping strategy I used to get through it. For the first time it dawned on me that could be true. She talked about some of the examples I'd given, and spoke of me building myself up to a place where I can set clear boundaries and stand up against H, which made me have a physical reaction which the therapist saw and described to accurately to me. She said a body reaction like that cannot be faked and she can see I live in terror, and that fear enough adds to the picture to get an injunction.
So I suppose my long-winded question is, what kind of thing have you got an injunction over, that doesn't involve actual physical violence? I suppose I want to compare notes a bit, to learn to stick my head above the parapet and stop normalising what I find hard to face.
Please be kind though. I'm finding this so hard to navigate, especially as I so much want to shield my children, and do feel quite vulnerable. Thank you.